A few months ago, with a packed schedule, multiple meetings, events at Arya’s school, and one too many hectic weekends, I was complaining to my husband about not having enough time and being at home quietly. Few months later, a pandemic hit the world and my wish was granted. And now I suddenly wish that things were back to the way they were.
I am sure many of you can relate to this!
We all have very busy lives. Whether you are an outside working mom, stay at home mom, or work-from-home mom, your to-do-list is never ending. We try to make time for a special occasion or function or squeeze in an occasional self-care so to take a break from our daily routine. But things never really slow down.
I have been home with my girls for the past 3 weeks. We did go out for a drive once or twice, but for the most part, we have been at home non-stop. It was fine the first week because we were all loving the slow-paced routine. No school stuff, no drop-off/pickups, no meetings, or errands. It was great just waking up, working, doing things at home. But as the days turned into weeks, it has become very difficult to keep my girls “locked in”. We have watched Frozen 2 probably 100 times now, and even though the girls would love to continue watching it, I am trying to not go overboard on-screen time.
Some of the things we have been doing to stayed entertained are:
– Playing dress-up with Indian clothes and jewelry.
– Backyard fun with bubbles, water sprinklers, gardening, and just chilling on the grass.
– Riding scooter/bikes in the front yard, backyard and sides of the house.
– Cleaning – I mostly do this while the girls make more mess.
– Video chatting with grandma (my mom).
– Cooking/baking a few things.
– Playing with toys/stuffed animals/classroom and imaginary play.
They seem like a lot but trust me, a few hours into the day and I am already struggling to keep them entertained. I have noticed that they bicker a lot – well Arya does, probably from frustration because she wants to go to school – and then they make up and start playing again. Typical sister stuff!
But seriously, in all this, I get a major headache trying to keep them well, fed, entertained, and staying sane. It’s not easy; I love my girls but taking care of them without any break from them, round the clock is not easy. It’s mentally draining. Some days I want to lock myself in the bathroom for hours at a time. But I don’t!
When this whole lock-down thing started, I thought that making a schedule and finding new ways to keep them busy would work. But honestly, it doesn’t. Or atleast it didn’t for us. So I decided that I will just go with the flow of things. All the stuff I mentioned above were not planned; they just happened.
So moms, please do not be hard on yourself. You are NOT alone. Just because someone posts a fun picture on Instagram with their kids does not mean that that is happening round the clock. I am sure that mama is having a tough time as well; just as I am and you are.
I never realized how important school or outings were until now. Those few hours when Arya is at school is so important for both of us. The short visits to grandma or the park, or even a Target run NEVER seemed more significant until now. I am sure that after this ordeal, none of us will take things for granted; neither staying in and having family days, nor having the option of going out and about.
If you wanna chat or just share your feelings (not judgment from me😊), I am all ears!